tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7973994758641403598.post7732681074254915741..comments2023-09-19T04:35:47.067-04:00Comments on Loving A Widower....a blog by author Julie Donner Andersen: The GOW FilterJulie Donner Andersen. authorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03762949807031902269noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7973994758641403598.post-76900766997922253112010-01-07T02:35:19.412-05:002010-01-07T02:35:19.412-05:00I found your post quite poignant and I just wanted...I found your post quite poignant and I just wanted to give a brief response. I'm dating a widower who is, like you, also 53 but more recently widowed. I'm in my 30s and he was married almost as long as I have been alive. He loved his late wife immensely and I'm sure he will never "get over" the loss of her. However, I do not feel that his enduring love for her is incompatible with his present love for me. <br /> Never let anyone tell you that it is wrong to always have a part of your heart reserved just for Laurie. Being open to a new love does not mean forgetting or ceasing to miss and love her. <br /><br />At 53 you are a man in the prime of his life with hopefully many years ahead if your father is anything to go by! I wish you all the best and hope you meet someone who appreciates your capacity for love. I hope your genetic disposition to longevity can become a source of happiness to you rather than being depressing. Kia kahaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7973994758641403598.post-28430714049312526522009-10-07T18:55:31.491-04:002009-10-07T18:55:31.491-04:00My wife died 4 years ago and I'm only 53. I...My wife died 4 years ago and I'm only 53. I'm note in that intense grief/pain stage anymore but I will probably grieve for Laurie in some way for the rest of my life. How can I not? We grew up 3 blocks from each other and grew up together. However, I do hope that some lady will fall in love with me again. My dad will turn 91 soon and I could be a widower for a very long time. That's kinda depressing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com