tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7973994758641403598.post1824345551546648834..comments2023-09-19T04:35:47.067-04:00Comments on Loving A Widower....a blog by author Julie Donner Andersen: Hanging In ThereJulie Donner Andersen. authorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03762949807031902269noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7973994758641403598.post-3214523744666142082010-09-19T20:38:14.003-04:002010-09-19T20:38:14.003-04:00Anonymous,
Please register for The Official WOW/G...Anonymous,<br /><br />Please register for The Official WOW/GOW Message Board at my website, www.juliedonnerandersen.com. You are NOT alone!<br />Blessings...<br /><br />~JDAJulie Donner Andersen. authorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762949807031902269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7973994758641403598.post-89650006803026526112010-09-19T19:51:32.199-04:002010-09-19T19:51:32.199-04:00I am a GOW 6 mos in. He fell in love with me lst....I am a GOW 6 mos in. He fell in love with me lst. All of a sudden, he had his ist relapse & rage. Said this I was a wonderful person, but this isn't going to work & broke up. I had to call for closure & he said he was in a black hole. We've talked only a few times (we don't live real close). In a single conversation, he can be both pos. & neg. He said it's not over & does love me, but I am left with, is this all grief? Or really doesn't love me or has found someone else, because of some of the answers he gives. I'm ready to have a nervous breakdown.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7973994758641403598.post-52006880881456840742009-10-07T09:02:40.457-04:002009-10-07T09:02:40.457-04:00Hi I also just recently married a widower of 3 yea...Hi I also just recently married a widower of 3 years with two little kids. I myself a widow of 12 years with two teenage daughters. It always feels that woman have to do all the sacrificing all the time. I feel I get no respect from his children. He gets very sensitive if I scold the kids for being naughty. He is always having a day were memories of his late wife floats his mind. Never mind that I lost my husband too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7973994758641403598.post-48257032653054711402009-06-24T12:52:52.070-04:002009-06-24T12:52:52.070-04:00I feel such sadness for GOW. Iam one. AT times I w...I feel such sadness for GOW. Iam one. AT times I wonder why I (we) put ourselves through such pain and hurt. Relationship are supposed to be a two-way street, give and take right? Yet, it seems Widower's take so much more than they give. They excpet GFs to compromise so much wiht so little in return. Maybe it's not way always but seems so now anyway. I think most GOW have no idea what they were getting into when they started dating a widower.... I know if I had known then what I know now I would have never dated him. Truly. I would have run for thehills. I was looking for a reciprocal loving relationship,not to be someone's grief counsoler to feel like I am perpetually standing in line behidn his Late wife. Some of the insecruties are my own... I will admit and not necessarily what he is doing per se. Still it's difficult to overcome whether he imposes them or I do. Now we are in love and it's too hard to just go back and give up as it would have been at first. But moving forward has been so painful and actually about the hardest relationship I have ever faced except my divorce 12 years ago. Oftentimes I wonder if it would be better to be just be alone than in a relationship that makes me feel so happy and in love at times but then so darn insecure and miserable at others. Jury is still out whether i will stay or go in the end. Some days I feel like it's just not worth it and others I cannot imagine my life w/o him. We are only about 3 months in but it's seems a lifetime. I have never had to work so hard for relationship in such a short period of time. It boggles my mind. I was a happy, hopeful person before all this. Where did my self-esteem go?Elainenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7973994758641403598.post-48262876858014432952009-05-26T08:37:53.374-04:002009-05-26T08:37:53.374-04:00Anonymous,
Please register for The Official WOW/G...Anonymous,<br /><br />Please register for The Official WOW/GOW Message Board at my website, www.juliedonnerandersen.com. I'm sure you will benefit from those who post there, myself included!<br /><br />Blessings...<br /><br />~JDAJulie Donner Andersen. authorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762949807031902269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7973994758641403598.post-89208391245096571082009-05-26T01:56:38.305-04:002009-05-26T01:56:38.305-04:00Hi-
I'm dating a widower for a year and a half no...Hi- <br />I'm dating a widower for a year and a half now. All the effort- now- seems to be in vain. I read that they would withdraw. It's been bad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7973994758641403598.post-18258867481788472722009-03-25T20:01:00.000-04:002009-03-25T20:01:00.000-04:00I'm not sure if it's just a bad day, week, etc. bu...I'm not sure if it's just a bad day, week, etc. but today I can't seem to keep it together. I think I'm the next to go :( I guess that's why I'm posting here...I've been so strong but today I'm falling apart and I don't show my weaknesses or failures so I don't want anyone to see my tears...but maybe I was wrong about my relationship...after reading this I just don't knowAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7973994758641403598.post-37897441325343846262009-03-21T20:58:00.000-04:002009-03-21T20:58:00.000-04:00I was so sorry to hear that news too. But when I d...I was so sorry to hear that news too. But when I described the situation to my W, he didn't hold out much hope for their relationship. I sure do hope that she eventually finds happiness. She's such a sweetheart. Sounds as though her W just wasn't ready to "let go" of the past just yet. But it's been less than a year for him.<BR/><BR/>When I first met my W, almost six years had gone by and he THOUGHT that he had let go of the past, but he really had not. Your article about "going on" vs. "letting go" was very illuminating. It described him to a "T". He was VERY organized and thought he had everything together. When I came along, I could feel the guilt and the sadness wash over him. He wasn't expecting it, and neither was I. It was very hard on both of us the first few months. And once, I didn't think that I'd be strong enough to go through it. But this man has got so much heart...and is so caring and giving. Like you said, "they're worth waiting for." It makes every minute with them that much more precious. I appreciate him more every day.Juanlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06886524608297384161noreply@blogger.com